Beyond Borders: How International Students and Immigrants Tackle Responsibilities, Expectations, and Mental Health

Often, we find ourselves choosing between comfort and growth; more often than not, growth comes with discomfort. That’s exactly how I felt as an international student when I first moved to Sydney, Australia. My heart was full of dreams and excitement, but I was also aware that the road ahead wouldn’t come with the same comforts and privileges I had back home.

Moving to a new country for better education, job opportunities, or a fresh start is a brave decision. But as thrilling as it sounds, it can feel daunting and lonely. The challenges of adapting to a different culture, balancing academic or work responsibilities, and managing finances can take a toll on mental health. I’ve faced these challenges and experienced distress, just like most international students/immigrants.

Cultural Shock: Navigating the Unknown

One of the biggest hurdles international students and immigrants face is cultural shock—disorientation and discomfort from entering a new environment. It happens when we encounter different social norms, languages, and lifestyles. In my experience, I realise it typically unfolds in stages:

• Honeymoon Stage: The beginning stage where everything feels exciting. The possibility of travelling alone, meeting new people, getting away from home, exploring your new identity, and having the freedom of getting away is all you can focus on. This can typically end the minute you land or even board the plane. 
• Frustration Stage: This unfolds when you first realise your accent is a bit different from the others. You start realising how the same language can feel like a barrier to communication. The novelty of understanding new social norms wears off, and you find yourself being misunderstood solely based on your cultural background. For many, it is at this stage that homesickness also kicks in, and the realisation sets in that you will need to dig deeper to make this work. 
• Adjustment Stage: For many, this takes the longest. It can be gruelling, but it eases as you begin to navigate and adapt to the new culture. 
• Acceptance Stage:  Unfortunately, only a handful land at this stage, where you find a sense of belonging and feel more comfortable in your new environment. You feel like the sacrifices you made to leave your loved ones outweigh the rewards of enjoying a new career and the opportunities that come with it. 

The sad part is that while many forums provide excessive information on student life, accommodation, and immigration, I feel there is limited information or discussion on the mental health impacts and the support available for international students. 

So here’s what I did to ease this transition. The key for me was taking the perspective of curiosity over judgment.  I found that approaching cultural differences with an open mind creates an opportunity to learn and grow. Immersing myself in local customs, language, and traditions while also holding onto aspects of my culture that bring comfort helped me build my sense of self and belonging in a new country. Staying connected with family and friends from home helped maintain a sense of familiarity, but being patient with myself was the most crucial aspect that allowed me to grow personally and as a counsellor. It highlighted that providing the kind of support I wish I had received as an international student mattered to me the most as a qualified counsellor now. 

Photo by Darina Belonogova.

Homesickness and Loneliness: Building a Support System

As social beings, we crave connection. One of the most complex parts of being in a new country is missing family, friends, and the familiar comfort of home. In the early days, forming meaningful connections can be difficult, leading to feelings of isolation.

While keeping in touch with loved ones back home is important, building new relationships is just as essential. These things worked for me, such as networking in class, at work, or through community events. I also joined cultural or student groups to meet like-minded people who understood what I was going through. Finding a supportive community, even small initially, made the journey easier.

Academic and Financial Pressure: The Balancing Act

Academic and financial pressure are two of the most significant stressors for international students. Adjusting to a different education system can be overwhelming—teaching styles, grading systems, and faculty expectations may differ from what you were used to. It helps to familiarise yourself with these differences early on and seek support when needed, whether through study groups, academic advisors, or campus resources.

On top of academic demands, financial concerns can add another layer of stress. Many international students face the challenge of covering tuition fees, rent, and daily expenses, often while managing work restrictions on their student visas. To ease this burden, it’s crucial to understand your visa’s work limitations and seek job opportunities that align with them. Updating your resume, applying for internships, and networking can also help secure employment after graduation.

Final Thoughts

Many factors impact the mental and physical well-being of international students and immigrants, with culture shock, loneliness, and financial stress often being the most difficult challenges to navigate. I can deeply relate to the feelings of isolation that these experiences can evoke. During my own journey as an international student, I often wished for counselling that was not only affordable but also readily available. Now, as a qualified counsellor, I am passionate about providing the compassionate support that everyone deserves. It is important to remember that no one should have to face these daunting struggles alone; reaching out for help, forming meaningful connections, and prioritizing self-care can turn a challenging journey into one filled with growth and fulfillment.

Photo by Keira Burton.

About Mansi:

Mansi is a registered counsellor at Mindkshetra, who is dedicated to advocating for young people’s mental health. She specializes in offering culturally safe and accessible counselling to young adults as they navigate the complexities of life. I believe my lived experience can guide me in efficiently assisting you in navigating these challenges to prioritise your well-being. If you are seeking to work with someone who understands and supports your journey toward healing and empowerment, please feel free to reach out to her at mansi@mindkshetra.com.au.